As we’ve discussed in previous articles, you are the perpetrator of domestic violence if you are abusing your intimate partner either physically, sexually, emotionally or all three. The domestic abuse can be tied to beatings, throwing items, shoving and slapping. Or, you may not be laying a hand on your spouse, but instead are constantly humiliating, insulting and embarrassing them. You might be falsely accusing them of infidelity or overspending. As a result you result to watching their every move, stalking them, or isolating them from loved ones. This may not happen all the time, but when it does, it’s severe and the victim is left in constant fear and stress.
Unfortunately, domestic abuse is very common in our society. About one in four women are likely to be abused in her lifetime. Many times, the perpetrator of the violence comes from a family in which domestic violence was commonplace. Battering is a learned behavior and if someone grows up in a family in which his father beats his mother to resolve anger issues, than it is highly likely that child will carry this behavior into his own adulthood and future relationships. Most people in the U.S. don’t report domestic violence because of embarrassment or fear of reprisal from their batterers. However, there is hope not only for the victims of this behavior, but for the offenders as well. This behavior can be addressed and the cycle of violence can be broken.
In fact, in 1979, psychologist Lenore Walker found a common pattern or cycle that most abusive relationships followed. According to her research, the cycle has 3 parts. First the tension builds over common everyday issues like money or work. Then the verbal abuse begins so the victim tries to stop the situation by pleasing the abuser. If this doesn’t work, physical abuse begins. In the end comes the honeymoon phase when the abuser is ashamed for what he’s done and might even apologize. The abuser promises that he will never do it again and everyone goes on with his or her daily life.
The cycle repeats itself over and over until the batterer gets help, or the victim leaves the situation. If you are reading this and recognize yourself, it’s time to take action and get help now. Online domestic violence classes are easily accessible from any web-based computer. They are low in cost and totally private. No one needs to know that you have reached out for support and guidance, unless you have already been convicted for a domestic violence offense.
If you have been convicted, with court approval you can take a domestic violence class online to fulfill a legal requirement. Taking a class online from www.dvclass.com provides you the utmost convenience, as you don’t need to miss any work or school to attend the class. Once you register, the class is available to you online at any time of the day or night. If you are looking to get this requirement over quickly, you can sit down and take the course over one weekend, or spread it out over a couple of weeks. It’s completely self-paced with nothing to download or print out.
Online domestic violence classes will provide you with the education you need to break the cycle of abuse and begin a new happier and healthier life for your entire family. Take one today before the law requires you to!
